Why Love Don’t cost a Thing ?!

Love don’t cost a thing by famous pop star Jenifer Lopez,

discussing the idea of unconditional love and how it has a little to do with the  material status.


Lyrics and Extracted meanings:

Think you gotta keep me iced (You don’t),

Think I’m gonna spend your cash (I won’t).

Aside from the fact that most people are driven by material world

and some consider it necessary for leaving a good impression.

some others are not prioritizing the material dimension.

and most of those people are not naive or too romantic.

because the heart core of a guanine connection is the attraction that happens on so many levels, that has nothing to do with impressing others.

some material elements may give an advantage of looking prosperous which can be attractive but yet it still not the core of a true connection.

it is known that only ( unconditional love ) can heal people or make them accept themselves as they are.

we see that people who try to cover up their pain by  trying  to please their partners or the society trying to be rich or famous , they lack self  love and they really don’t have a clue of what true love really is.

( But your heart’s a mess , Think you outta know ).


Money isn’t a devil, but shallowness is:

of course  money and the material craving  is not a devil in itself,

making fortune is not forbidden either .

it is that keeping self-worth and other’s worth conditioned by that tiny element is very unrealistic and it blocks any chances for experiencing the real thing.


Material world vs the human needs:

All that matters is, that you treat me right,

Give me all the things I need, that money can’t buy.

Imagine a kid who has very wealthy parents that barely care about his needs,

or spend time with him,

or guide or support him

but they give all the money he wants  and provide him all means of entertainment

it is diffidently will make him happy but also spoiled.

and he will feel loved but on a very superficial level

because what he really needs is more than this.

he diffidently needs his needs met.

Because the human needs are the same  in any relation, in any society , for all humans.

the human needs include respect, attention, genuine care , understanding , supporting , empathy and compassion , loyalty .

The human self not having its basic needs met means living an unhappy dissatisfying life and everything else becomes a distraction or away to numb the pain.


Unconditional self-love:

So you’re tryna buy what’s already yours

People who don’t accept themselves as they are, they cannot accept themselves after any change too,

the answer is supposed to be from inside out as a result of appreciating one’s authentic self including both what we like and what we don’t like.

So instead of trying so hard to please a partner to reflect back an appreciation on oneself

it is easier to find the positive sides of  who we are and accept that on the way to growth we have weaknesses that we can learn to deal with.

and we have strength that we can learn to notice and love.

(What I need from you is not available in stores ).


Self-love and relations:

If one doesn’t have enough self-love and acceptance it is hard to find it in others, and faking self love won’t help building sustainable healthy relationship.

   Seen a side of you that I really feel / Doing way too much, never keep it real / If it doesn’t change, gotta hit the road / Now I’m leaving, where’s my keys?/ I’ve got to go .